Is Online Dating Best For Relationship Hunting?
On The Hunt For A New Relationship?
The day you discover your freedom is the day before you realise you are only half way through your ‘post midlife crisis’ transition.
If you are just out of a long term relationship and divorced I am sorry to disappoint you, but you have a whole lot of new things to consider again, and a few more that you think you know about that are now different now you are older.
Back To Dating
Take for example the dating scene. Well in case you’ve not heard, the dating scene has hit the Internet and it is one of the hottest things that is getting forty something’s tapping away late at night and uploading the slimmest photos they can find of themselves whilst managing a list of possible candidates for their next sexual adventure.
Unlike Myspace which is more about pouting and showing your cleavage, the forty something daters aim to look as confident with no baggage as they can convince other forty something’s.
If you have been thinking about a new relationship then be warned, dating online is not the best option in my opinion. What about moving to a new area, getting a new job, starting a new activity after work?
Been There, Got The T-Shirt
There are many ways to meet new people without jumping into a game of roulette with dating sites. The more you try to find the right person, the worse your experience will be. The more relaxed you are, the better position you will be in to find the right person for you
Why am I so cynical? Because I’ve used dating sites (stunned silence). Well, it was a period I was going through.. er.. I was very lonely… er.. no one in my area new to meet… and a few other excuses all other online daters use.
You see, overall, people that are online to date are there because it doesn’t work off line and you have to ask the obvious question, why is that? (of course it doesn’t count in my unique situation :O)
There are some very genuine reasons why someone will find online dating is the best way to get to the person they want to find. For instance, rural areas provide little opportunity for someone who wants to date to find eligible candidates.
If you are so busy with being a parent, working to earn your crust and find little time to meet new people in your area then going hunting via the Internet can feel very convenient and safe since you can sit in your own lounge and tap away.
But if you go hunting there you will need to filter out a lot of people who are there to prey or are very vulnerable and who need the Internet to communicate because all other routes have failed for them, rather than not being available to them.
Dater Beware
An old friend of mine, who was desperate to find ‘the one’. This term, ‘the one’ is used by daters to describe the perfect partner who is all things and ticks all the boxes for them.
Such a person does not ever exist however there is a strong need to turn the dream into a reality, possibly because of some fairy tail they may have read when they were young. Bless.
Anyway, poor said friend spent around a year hunting out new males online only to constantly date men who were cheating on their partners and just wanted to sow their seed in as many fields as possible in the shortest space of time possible.
My friend’s relationships usually went from feeling like she had found ‘the one’ to finding ‘another cheater’ in around two weeks on average.
The courting of the male of the species could last no longer before the thin veneer of their integrity faded away.
Check out my list of the most common dating characters out there to avoid. Coming soon.
Guy
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