New Friends For Your Life-Style Change
Naomi from ittybiz.com recently wrote an article about how friends and family can put you down when you start a business.
Rather than being supportive it seems to bring out the worst in some people. It challenges their beliefs, e.g. that women shouldn’t be the main breadwinner or that you run a risk of becoming more successful than them.
After so many years where you have been there to demonstrate how successful they are, there is a serious risk that they will begin to feel inferior to you. Naomi’s article is here.
Why Do People Have To Knock Others Down?
Of course, our friends and family who have these issues should be taking a long deep think about the way they feel to try to understand why they choose to knock you down.
It’s much like if you break up form a relationship of marriage that many people around are affected by. People begin to choose sides, or are not interested in you as a single person.
As hard as it sounds, its time to realise that these friends weren’t real deep friends but were with you more for their own needs than from a mutually supporting and nurturing relationship.
They were with you because it gave them a good feeling that supported their vulnerable egos. Now you have broken the mould you can not give them that feel good factor anymore.
What Can You Do With Friends Who Can’t Deal With Your Life-Change?
Time to get REAL friends my brothers and sisters. Reject those who sap your energy feeding their own vulnerabilities, let them take it to therapy. Reject those who sponge off of you continuously. Walk away from those who never call you and expect you to do all the contacting and keeping in touch.
You’ve broken the mould they have encapsulated you in.
As hard as it is to find your friends are now turning on you, accept that they are not real genuine friends.
Don’t waste a minute more of your life with people who cannot genuinely, unconditionally care for you & accept you. Keep an eye out for those who are genuine and are interested in you because of who you really are and will be inspired by your original and alternative thinking.
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,I feel that friends who are with you when you are a couple, may be finding it hard to keep the individual friendships going, and be genuine about the friendship, as they themselves are envious of the situation that you are now in. By this I mean, they are envious , or maybe envy is too strong a word, it may just be confusion of their own thoughts that you have freed yourself from the shackels of a non fulfilling relationship. They struggle to show genuiness, although in some situations and with some friends they may in deed re focus themslves as genuine when they have got over the initial envy of your freedom. I have mixed thoughts in relation to friends during this time, I really believe that in order to get yourself through the situation ( divorce / infidelity) the one person you have to rely on is only yourself, you will not fail or abandon your feelings. Friends will re visist the relationship when they feel able to deal with the changes this has brought about in you. You then have to consider whether ther is room in your life for these individuals.