Your Partner Is Cruising With No Respect For You

Posted on March 31st, 2008 by Ruben

Midlife Crisis & Relationship Advice: Documented Postings Number 3

Your Partner Is Cruising With No Respect For You

Sometimes, some people go so far off the rails they will actively seek out new relationships or ‘flings’ fully aware that you know. They may even talk to you about their infidelity, maybe even brag about it.

Your partner may be treating you and your family with little but that doesn’t mean you cant treat yourself with no respect either. Your self-esteem has probably plummeted since witnessing this and so you are weak and maybe don’t know what to do. Take some time to clear your mind. Think about your own self and not about wondering if your love will return and make everything perfect again.

Take control from them. Think about your own respect.

How dare he/she? Who do they think they are? Have they no respect for you? If they have lost it that much its time to get them out of the house, away from you and your children if you have any. Its not helpful for anyone to live under those conditions and it may get to dangerous levels if emotions get higher. Protect yourself and your family by getting the person out, or (subject to legal advice) move our temporarily yourself.

They may try to blame you for their own failures but don’t listen.

Take some time out with your children. Go spend some weekends away where you can think about yourself and your children rather than spending your time worrying about someone who is spending their time looking for someone else.

What is it you really want to do with the rest of your life? There is so much life out there to experience, so many wonderful things and adventures to have. And they are all there for your taking. Why sit around waiting for someone to pop back in your life and say, “ok I’m back, for a bit” Why on earth would you waste your life with someone who does not respect you or your family?

You must believe that there are many other people out there whom you deserve to be with and who deserve a person like you. You have got to believe you deserve better than having to deal with a person who is treating you like that, for whatever reason that has lead them to that point.

Consider the future if they did return to you and you accepted their apologies. Nothing would be the same again. You need to take control and make sure that any effort to return is on your conditions and if they are not met, you are not meant to be.

Look after yourself and your family. A person who is willing to separate themselves from your love and your families needs sympathy & help from professionals but not necessarily your love and your unconditional support.