Is Infidelity Actually Abuse?

Posted on April 15th, 2008 by Guy Lewis

Is Infidelity abuse?

The answer to this is, yes, of course it is. When someone is deliberately hiding their cheating from you, or floating it in front of their partner it is emotional abuse. The adulterer is only thinking of themselves and are denying or not caring about the effect of their actions has on others, and in particular their partner.

If this is not clear enough lets talk about some basic respect here. We (most of us luckily) live in societies where we can expect to walk down a road and not be attacked. We can go about our normal business with the expectation that those we come across will under normal circumstances will respect us, as we would do for them.

So, even though someone who is having an affair may consider it a small issue so that they can deny the effect and significance of their abuse and go about their infidelity but they are fundamentally dis-respecting their partner.

If their partner knew about their infidelity then they would have a choice as what to do for themselves. If they already know then at least they have a chance to put some respect in themselves and make arrangements to try to sort out their relationship by getting some relationship advice, or if this doesn’t work, seek legal advice for divorce.

Don’t let anyone suggest to you infidelity is anything less than abuse of you and the internationally accepted terms of a fair relationship between two individuals.