Don’t Fear Your Dreams

I’ve been working hard these last two days. The kids have been off school so its been hard for me to get the time to work for any length of time.

Plus I’ve been away to see my parents as well. So I felt pleased with the progress I have achieved with all my work, I wrote a couple of pages of ‘to do’s’ that was beginning to look daunting.

However, I am ploughing through it nicely, even the bits I don’t really want to do.

So, I’m getting close to my objectives, I don’t think it will be long before DiscoverAid reaches a good part of its community which is one of my objectives.

Why am I telling you all this? Well because as I get closer to my goals, I’m wondering what it really will feel like to be finally there. What will happen on the other side? Will my objectives actually change anything for me at all?

It’s a bit of an old cliché but fearing that your dreams may actually become true is a real threat that might inspire you to subconsciously try to hijack your success.

For instance I might decide that half of my objectives are not worth the time and go off in another direction, and continue, forever to change my direction, never getting to the end and completing anything, getting bored (so I might tell myself) before I get to completion.

As part of your midlife transition you might have come up with some plans that end with a ‘happy ending’. Take for example the image of yourself driving off into the sunset in a new sportscar, hood down and looking good to boot!

Well, as you get closer to the dream you start to realise that maybe the new sportscar looks odd with you, and driving it along alone makes you look a bit of a loner and somewhat stupid that you are trying to drive with the hood down when everyone else has theirs up.

So maybe the reality of your dream is safer and more complete when its not real. Perhaps you should keep on living in the future and not for today?

Perhaps that is safer and in that way you will never fail the dream, even if you forget that you are actually never getting to complete anything.

But fear not! You have forgotten that other cliché; enjoy the journey not the destination (or something like that).

Only use your dreams to motivate you to move on when things are hard.

Make sure you complete your objectives and keep those motivational dreams that are the rewards as a separate part of the dream that you can decide what you want to do when you get there.

Maybe you will choose to go scuba diving in the Caribbean for six months instead of driving that sports car? Either way, when you get to your destination, its time to plan for your next.

Keep going and keep knocking off those achievements now you are fully empowered at your age to do so!!

Have you got any advice you would like to share about your situation? Please post your comments below.

Guy

If you feel this article has been useful to you then please donate something to help me keep this site alive for others. Thank you.

Filed under: Mid-Life Crisis, Philosophical

Here Are Some Other Articles That May Interest You. Please Click To Read.

Thoughts On Surviving A Marriage Breakup

New year’s resolution, life plans

Is Being Single At Midlife More Natural?

“Live Each Day Like Its Your Last”

“Live Each Day Like Its Your Last”