I am going to spend some more time writing about my own experience of midlife crisis, infidelity, divorce, depression and self-esteem in a number of posts under the Mid-Life Crisis section.

I have been inspired to write when I noticed Dave Schoof’s article ‘Making the big change - stories from the front’ . Here is a brief summary to start things off. When its my turn to talk about me, it can feel overwhelming to bring up all the details and what exactly happend, so I’m hoping to start with a summary and add to this series by adding in detail when I can .. or feel like it!

My midlife career change came when I was earning more than I had ever done before. The problem was, I was very disillusioned about work and some of the people I had to work with. My role became ambiguous, the company became ambiguous and my reason for getting up in the morning was becoming lost.

My wife and I chose to ‘get away from it all’ having both got fed up with the commercial hussle and bussle of suburban living and so headed off to live by the sea and set up a new life for our family.

We started a business that was focused around our own creativity and selling within the local tourist industry. A year and a half into this I discovered my wife was having an affair so once the bomb had been dropped I found myself trying to manage three children and trying to work out how to get our business to work with just one person.

I spent a lot of time working through my midlife crisis then and dealing with what had happend in parallel to children and trying to work out how was I going to make money from now on. What was it I really wanted to do with my life?

Within a few years I got qualified as a counsellor and also started writing and producing music again and started to sell music online with a bunch of other independent artists. I had always loved music and had lost out big time in my twenties when I had not the courage to follow through with a band who later went on to be successful. So part of me wanted to ‘right that wrong’ now I was older and had the confidence I didn’t have when I was younger.

So today, I enjoy my music production and my little online shop. It doesn’t make much money right now but I hope it will bring me a part of a modest income sometime in the next year.

I also blog and help people with personal issues through counselling which has been great and very rewarding too. I have a number of other projects starting up that also fulfil me in other ways (such as creating free online games) and although a modest income is still waiting for me out there someday, its not about obtaining the biggest salary anymore, its about personal fulfillment whic I may have missed again, had I not had the time to reconsider my life’s objectives when I broke up with my wife.

Have you got any advice you would like to share about your situation? Post a comment below.

Guy

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