How Does A Narcissistic Person Respond To Being Told They Are Narcissistic?
Recently a person close to me was tricked into engaging and responding to abuse they were receiving from their hard done by bitter ex husband (yes, the very same one who had the affair and uses the children to get to & punish his ex wife).
At the end of a long and circular debate involving pitiful excuses why he could not pick up one of his daughters for the weekend she lost her cool and told him he was, “a narcisistic idiot”
Having created anger he was pleased and simply responded, “I see you can’t even spell narcissistic”
I wondered if it would be fun to think of a few good responses to this, such as,
“I see you can read a dictionary at least”
or
“I take it you are far more fimiliar with the word than most then”
“I see you dont deny it. When are you going to get some help for it for the sake of the rest of us then?”
However. The message those who have lived with narcissism will tell you is:
Don’t engage.
Don’t try to change them, they never will.
They are too far abused and affected by this personality disorder to really acknowledge and change for the better.
As much as it would be great to give as good as you get, that is their life, that is their need. To engage and have confirmed their world of arrogance and hatred is real and that even the most calmed and kind of us are, deep down, willing to vent hatred.
The best thing to do is to leave them in their own sorry lives and spend a moment in hope for all vulnerable people that may be in their path.
That is their path, not yours. Your focus should be about self preservation and making sure you don’t bump into a new narcissistic in your future.
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