What Is A Midlife Crisis (part three)
In the previous article I listed and discussed some well known triggers for a midlife crisis which have a significant impact on people in their mid years. This maybe as early as thirty or can happen much later in their fifties or even sixties.
Because the crisis of your life can happen through so many events, a midlife crisis is quite a generic description. It is because it describes the affect and what we see, as opposed to what is really happening for us.
So What Can Someone Do If They Feel Like They Are In A Midlife Crisis?
If we can learn to understand what really is happening for us at midlife, then we will know what to do to make it work out for the best for everyone. What ever you do, don’t deny what you are feeling. Listen to yourself.
Work out what is the issue, maybe it is complicated because it involves many feelings, which then conflict with commitments you have for others that are innocent to this.
“What ever you do, don’t deny what you are feeling. Listen to yourself. Work out what is at the root of your midlife crisis ”
Its not easy considering that perhaps so many conflicting issues are running around your mind. It makes it harder to pin-point the real issue. Perhaps consider it isn’t a single issue, perhaps there are a range of things that are going on for you that build into one overwhelming feeling of a crisis at midlife.
If you are feeling like you are having a midlife crisis, be as honest with people close to you as you can. Don‘t leave them in the dark to worry and try to work out what is going on for you, or to even unfairly blame themselves. You have a responsibility to others as well as yourself. Seek out a good counsellor that can be your confident and provide you with a safe place to share and unravel your feelings. It will be a priceless opportunity at a pivotal time in your life.
Infidelity: Is This The Cause Of Your Partner’s Midlife Crisis?
Many times what is happening for us is hidden deliberately or not. However, when an individual decides to become very self focused (narcissistic) and seeks out a new relationship, this is normally well hidden and can be confusing, ambiguous situation for their partner to experience. This is then followed by the shock, anger and real trauma felt by them when they realise what their partner has really been up to and hiding from them.
Normally individuals who are having an affair make great efforts to hide it and try to continue to live their life normally. This leads them to eventually living two lives, the real life at home and the hidden life they have in their minds and which they experience perhaps one or two nights a week or at a weekend.
Most people aren’t that good at keeping this twin life up for too long. Of course there are some stories about people who were perfectly able to live two separate lives for years. These individuals, often of a narcissistic personality, have no remorse for abusing and lying to others.
I have written about the common signals of infidelity and how it an be confusing to really understand what is going on. Check these out here:
But for most, infidelity something that happens as a result of not feeling right about their existing lives and their relationships, and not having the courage or ability to deal with it in an honourable way. This then leads them to finding the ‘easy way out’ by continuing to keep the infidelity hidden and them choosing to enjoy the excitement of the situation.
Take a look at my growing article list to the left and under the sitemap at the top to view all articles on midlife and the issues that are common around this situation.
I wish you the best transition in midlife that you can create for yourself or your partner.
Here are some popular articles to read after this one:
Depression Triggered By Midlife Crisis
But for most, infidelity something that happens as a result of not feeling right about their existing lives and their relationships, and not having the courage or ability to deal with it in an honourable way. This then leads them to finding the ‘easy way out’ by continuing to keep the infidelity hidden and them choosing to enjoy the excitement of the situation.
Take a look at my growing article list to the left and under the sitemap at the top to view all articles on midlife and the issues that are common around this situation.
I wish you the best transition in midlife that you can create for yourself or your partner.
Here are some popular articles to read after this one:
Depression Triggered By Midlife Crisis
Here’s an interesting article on midlife crisis which suggests that some of the issues we come up with are more about stuff that just seems to happen at midlife so its not about midlife so much. I see their point but a real midlife crisis isn’t just about getting fed up with being a dad, its about the change that happens and your own perspective on life.
What are your midlife crisis experiences? Tell me about them below.
Guy.
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[...] In part three I touch on what can you do about a midlife crisis and also about the most common issue going on behind a midlife crisis that will change your life as a person with midlife crisis, and that of a partner to a person with a midlife crisis. Infidelity. [...]